Love That Listens
Season 1 Episode 01

How to Listen Without Fixing

A practical guide to helping someone feel heard before offering solutions.

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Host · Relationship educatorNaomi Carter
ProducerHearts Notes Studio
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If you're awake right now, hi. I know, strange thing to say in the middle of the night. Maybe you opened your eyes a little while ago and your brain immediately remembered everything: something you need to do tomorrow, somebody you were thinking about earlier, or some completely stupid little thought that suddenly feels enormous because the room is dark and everybody else seems to be asleep. I've had nights like that. You lie there thinking seriously. Now, this is when we're going to think about this. So I'll stay here with you for a while. You can turn over if you need to move the pillow, pull the blanket somewhere comfortable. Whatever, and you really don't need to listen carefully to me. I'd actually prefer if you started missing bits of what I'm saying. Let me do the talking for a while. This minute can just be lying here.